Dating can be a source of anxiety for many people. Here are some tips to help you deal with your anxiety about going on dates:

1. Identify your anxiety triggers: What specifically causes your anxiety about going on dates? Is it fear of rejection, fear of not being interesting enough, fear of not knowing what to say? Understanding your triggers can help you develop strategies to manage your anxiety.
2. Challenge your anxious thoughts: Our thoughts can sometimes feed our anxiety. When you have anxious thoughts about going on dates, try to challenge them with more realistic and positive thoughts. For example, if you are thinking “I’m going to mess this up,” try to reframe that thought to “I am prepared and I will do my best.”
3. Practice relaxation techniques: Engage in relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation to help calm your nerves before a date.
4. Focus on the present moment: Try to stay present in the moment during your date rather than worrying about what might happen in the future. This can help you feel more relaxed and confident.
5. Be yourself: Remember that it’s important to be yourself on a date. Don’t try to be someone you’re not or hide your true personality. Being authentic can help you build a genuine connection with the other person.
6. Plan ahead: Planning ahead can help you feel more in control of the situation. Plan what you’re going to wear, where you’re going to go, and what you’re going to talk about.
7. Seek support: Don’t be afraid to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist. They can offer you encouragement and help you manage your anxiety.
Remember that dating is a process and it’s okay to feel anxious. Be kind and patient with yourself, and don’t let anxiety hold you back from pursuing a fulfilling relationship.

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About the Author: Lillian Rishty
Lillian is a psychotherapist at NYC Therapy Group and specializes in anxiety disorders.

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